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Everyone wants to be whole, a singular, integrated person with no inner conflict. We all want to be just me. A simple, undivided human being. Oh, but we want more than that, don’t we?

We want to glide through life, emanating spiritual energy from our core – one nature, the universe, and whatever lay beyond our current realm of consciousness. We want to flow through a life filled with cosmic energy, compassion and wisdom and positivity oozing from our very pores. Life would be so easy if we live in these blissful states 24/7, wouldn’t it?

I want that, for sure. I don’t have it. No one does, not even the Dalai Lama, who gets angry at his staff on a regular basis and doesn’t even have a goal to achieve ultimate inner peace and quiet. He says total inner peace is not achievable, so he wouldn’t waste his time trying. And the rest of us are still going for super galactic oneness?

What if we started from a different place?

One with fantastic potential but more in line with the daily reality we all live.

That place might look like this:

You’re not whole. You never will be a fully integrated person. Stop trying to achieve oneness of mind, body, and spirit. Not only is oneness not aligned with your nature, but the expectation of achieving such an unlikely state (beyond a few minutes at a time) will add frustration and angst to your life.

I’m not being one of the cynical realists who only wants to prove that nothing good can happen in life. Life is wonderful. We can live it to the fullest! No one is trying to hit you with tough love or a cold, hard slap in the face.

wholeness vs. parts psychologyThis is merely a different paradigm.

One that suggests we all start where we are, which is undeniably divided.

Think it through and check the resource links below, which prove that our:

• Brains are divided, with parts that fight each other.
• Psyche is divided, with unconscious processes ruling the roost.
• Daily experience is a back-and-forth process between various competing mindsets.

The fact that we all experience life through competing parts of our brain, mind, and body is nearly undeniable when you look at the evidence. Why then, don’t we embrace a psychology that aligns with reality?

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